Dealing With Anger

“Anger is only a natural reaction; one of the mind's ways of reacting to things that it perceives to be wrong. While anger can sometimes lead people to do shocking things,it can also be an instinct to show people that something isn't right.”

1. Admit your anger. If you're angry, be honest with yourself about it.


“Acceptance of others, their looks, their behaviors, their beliefs, bring you an inner peace and tranquility -- instead of anger and resentment”

2. Evaluate your anger. Ask yourself, "What triggers my anger? When am I most likely to feel anger?"

“When you are offended at any man's fault, turn to yourself and study your own failings. Then you will forget your anger.”

3. Choose your perception. Slow down and put the problem in perspective. Frame the situation in as positive way as you can.

“You will not be punished for your anger, you will be punished by your anger.”

“Anger will never disappear so long as thoughts of resentment are cherished in the mind. Anger will disappear just as soon as thoughts of resentment are forgotten.” Buddha

4. Calm yourself down. If your anger is getting out of control, lower your voice, sit down, and breathe deeply. If you still can't calm down, remove yourself from the situation.

“The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present.” Barbara De Angelis

5. Watch your words and actions. When you're angry, it is easy to say and do things you will later regret. Watch carefully what you say; once those words are out of your mouth, you can never take them back.

“ Let this become your key - next time when anger comes, just watch it. Don't say, “I am angry.” Say, “Anger is there and I am watching it.” And see the difference! The difference is vast. Suddenly you are out of the grip of anger. If you can say, “I am just a watcher, I am not anger,” you are out of the grip.” Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh

6. Work your anger out. Anger produces adrenaline and adrenaline seeks release. You need to work your anger out. Go for a drive, weed a garden, chop wood, write a letter, or take a walk.

“It is wise to direct your anger towards problems -- not people; to focus your energies on answers -- not excuses.” William Arthur Ward

7. Talk about your anger. Take responsibility for your feelings. Be direct and honest without blaming or attacking. If you're overreacting, admit it. The better you can communicate about your anger, the more you can control it.

“As human beings we all want to be happy and free from misery… we have learned that the key to happiness is inner peace. The greatest obstacles to inner peace are disturbing emotions such as anger, attachment, fear and suspicion, while love and compassion and a sense of universal responsibility are the sources of peace and happiness.” Dalai Lama

8. Don't let the sun go down on your anger. Commit yourself to resolving your anger as soon as possible. Unresolved anger turns into bitterness, revenge, or both. The sooner you handle your anger, the better.

“The greatest remedy for anger is delay.” Seneca

“When anger rises, think of the consequences” Confucius

9. Seek help. If you anger persists or is out of control, get help immediately. To to a counselor or a pastor or a physician and develop a more intensive plan.

“In times of great stress or adversity, it's always best to keep busy, to plow your anger and your energy into something positive.” Lee Iacocca

“Anger and intolerance are the twin enemies of correct understanding” Mahatma Gandhi

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