“Be inspired by great men lives through their famous passages”

“When you are inspired by some great purpose, some extraordinary project, all your thoughts break their bonds: Your mind transcends limitations, your consciousness expands in every direction, and you find yourself in a new, great, and wonderful world. Dormant forces, faculties and talents become alive, and your discover yourself to be a greater person by far than you ever dreamed yourself to be.”

11/30/2009

Rating Yourself As Friend




A true friend is one who knows all about you and likes you anyway. A friend is someone who helps you up when you're down, and if they can't, they lay down beside you and listen. A friend is one who takes me for what I am. A friend is a hand that is always holding yours, no matter how close or far apart you may be. A friend is someone who is always there and will always, always care. A friend is a feeling of forever in the heart. And if your friend does evil to you, say to him, ''I forgive you for what you did to me, but how can I forgive you for what you did to yourself?'' And the glory of friendship is not the outstretched hand, nor the kindly smile, nor the joy of companionship; it's the spiritual inspiration that comes to one when he discovers that someone else believes in him and is willing to trust him with his friend.

Do you reach out to others rather than always expect that they will call or come to see you? Do you reciprocate? 

“When it hurts to look back, and you're scared to look ahead, you can look beside you and your best friend will be there”

When you meet others, are you open to the possibility that they may become future allies, confidantes, best friends? 

“My best friend is the one who brings out the best in me.” Henry Ford

Do you approach others with an attitude of acceptance and interest? 

“The greatest gift that you can give to others is the gift of unconditional love and acceptance.” Brian Tracy

“Acceptance of others, their looks, their behaviors, their beliefs, bring you an inner peace and tranquility -- instead of anger and resentment”

“When you're a beautiful person on the inside, there is nothing in the world that can change that about you. Jealousy is the result of one's lack of self-confidence, self-worth, and self-acceptance. The Lesson: If you can't accept yourself, then certainly no one else will.”

“Understanding is the first step to acceptance, and only with acceptance can there be recovery.” Joanne Kathleen Rowling

Are you a good listener, or do you claim more than your share of the airtime?

“A good listener tries to understand what the other person is saying. In the end he may disagree sharply, but because he disagrees, he wants to know exactly what it is he is disagreeing with.” Kenneth A. Wells

Do you refuse to become the only nurturer in the relationship?

One of the greatest titles we can have is "old friend". We never appreciate how important old friends are until we are older. The problem is we need to start our old friendships when we are young. We then have to nurture and grow those friendships over our middle age when a busy life and changing geographies can cause us to neglect those friends. Today is the day to invest in those people we hope will call us 'old friend" in the years to come.

“A loving relationship is one in which the loved one is free to be himself -- to laugh with me, but never at me; to cry with me, but never because of me; to love life, to love himself, to love being loved. Such a relationship is based upon freedom and can never grow in a jealous heart.” Leo F. Buscaglia

Relationships-of all kinds-are like sand held in your hand. Held loosely, with an open hand, the sand remains where it is. The minute you close your hand and squeeze tightly to hold on, the sand trickles through your fingers. You may hold onto some of it, but most will be spilled. A relationship is like that. Held loosely, with respect and freedom for the other person, it is likely to remain intact. But hold too tightly, too possessively, and the relationship slips away and is lost.

Are you loyal, and do you guard your friends’ secrets?

“A friend is one with whom you are comfortable, to whom you are loyal, through whom you are blessed, and for whom you are grateful.” William Arthur Ward

Do you practice unsolicited acts of kindness?




Friendship is a living thing that lasts only as long as it is nourished with kindness, empathy and understanding.

Do you live an authentic life based on your values and beliefs?

Living with integrity means: Not settling for less than what you know you deserve

in your relationships. Asking for what you want and need from others. Speaking your truth, even though it might create conflict or tension. Behaving in ways that are in harmony with your personal values. Making choices based on what you believe, and not what others believe.

Can you ask for and grant forgiveness? 

"Forgiveness is the key that unlocks the door of resentment and the handcuffs of hate. It is a power that breaks the chains of bitterness and the shackles of selfishness. Friendship flourishes at the fountain of forgiveness.” William Arthur Ward

Can you listen when a friend tells you that you’ve hurt her, or do you withdraw or get defensive?

A friend is someone who helps you up when you're down, and if they can't, they lay down beside you and listen.

“Friends are helpful not only because they will listen to us, but because they will laugh at us; Through them we learn a little objectivity, a little modesty, a little courtesy; We learn the rules of life and become better players of the game” Will Durant

Do you encourage other people to develop their strengths and graciously help them overcome weakness? 

“Our duty is to encourage every one in his struggle to live up to his own highest idea, and strive at the same time to make the ideal as near as possible to the Truth.” Swami Vivekananda

Other people may be there to help us, teach us, guide us along our path, but the lesson to be learned is always ours.

“It is better to keep a friend from falling than to help him up”

Can you enjoy a friend’s good fortune-whether in marriage, motherhood, or career-even if you aren’t on a parallel track?

Happiness comes of the capacity to feel deeply, to enjoy simply, to think freely, to risk life, to be needed.

“The moments of happiness we enjoy take us by surprise. It is not that we seize them, but that they seize us.” Ashley Montagu




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