The Weak Can Never Forgive. Forgiveness Is The Attitude Of The Strong.

The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attitude of the strong.

It takes strength and effort to forgive others. When people have ripped you off in any business deal or transaction, when your friends, family, love ones or people have hurt you, it takes strength to forgive them. Do you realize it also takes strength to forgive yourself? Refusing to forgive oneself and move on in life is an act of weakness. Sure, you can never forget things. You are not a computer that can erase its memory, but you must forgive.

“Strength of character means the ability to overcome resentment against others, to hide hurt feelings, and to forgive quickly.”

“Compassion, forgiveness, these are the real, ultimate sources of power for peace and success in life.” Tenzin Gyatso

 

You see, forgiveness is a bridge that every single of us has to cross. You can expend your energy and power blaming others for things that go wrong in your life, for your lack of success, or financial woes. Or you can choose to forgive others when they have wronged you. Forgiveness is your choice.

“True forgiveness is not an action after the fact, it is an attitude with which you enter each moment.” David Ridge

I don't know if I continue, even today, always liking myself. But what I learned to do many years ago was to forgive myself. It is very important for every human being to forgive herself or himself because if you live, you will make mistakes- it is expected. But once you do and you see the mistake, then you forgive yourself and say, 'well, if I'd known better I'd have done better,' that's all. So you say to people who you think you may have hurt, 'I'm sorry,' and then you say to yourself, 'I'm sorry.' If we all hold on to the mistake, we can't see our own glory in the mirror because we have the mistake between our faces and the mirror; we can't see what we're capable of being. You can ask forgiveness of others, but in the end the real forgiveness is in one's own self. I think that young men and women are so caught by the way they see themselves. Now mind you. When a larger society sees them as unattractive, as threats, as too black or too white or too poor or too fat or too thin or too sexual or too asexual, that's rough. But you can overcome that. The real difficulty is to overcome how you think about yourself. If we don't have that we never grow, we never learn, and sure we should never teach.

“A man must be big enough to admit his mistakes, smart enough to profit from them, and strong enough to correct them.” John C. Maxwell

Some scientists set out to capture rare species of monkey and bring it back alive and unharmed. To do this they devised a trap, a little jar with a narrow neck into which they placed a handful of nuts. The monkeys would smell the nuts and reach in to get them, but they could not withdraw their clenched fists. They were trapped, unable to escape and unwilling to let go. Sometimes human beings are just like those monkeys. We are unable to escape our past mistakes, fears and failures because we are unwilling to let go.

Have you been mistreated and vowed never to forget the abuse as long as you live? Whether you know it or not, you are harboring unforgiveness and that is sign of weakness. Don’t be a carrier of that disease.

Here are some tips on how to forgive:

Realize you have a file called Dirty Rotten Things People Have Done To Me. Burn the file by choosing to forgive.

Understand that forgiveness is something you will need from others and others will need from you for the rest of your life, so learn to be good at it.

Understand that the person who says ‘I will forgive, and I will choose to forget – to forget the pain, forget the anger and move on.’

Strength of character means the ability to overcome resentment against others, to hide hurt feelings, and to forgive quickly.

One of the secrets of a long and fruitful life is to forgive everybody everything before you go to bed

To love means loving the unlovable. To forgive means pardoning the unpardonable. Faith means believing the unbelievable. Hope means hoping when everything seems hopeless.

To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.

Do everything. Love as much as you can. it may hurt but it helps us grow. Give all you have...you may be poor but you will be content. Always forgive....your heart can not afford not to. Teach what you know and learn what you don't. Stay open to all.

Before you speak, listen.

Before you write, think.

Before you spend, earn.

Before you invest, investigate.

Before you criticize, wait.

Before you pray, forgive.

Before you quit, try.

Before you retire, save.

Before you die, give.

If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9